I have had several “Check Your Game” moments in my life, but one that particularly stands out and triggered a lot of growth and development happened when I was on holiday with my wife.
We were staying in Rome, Italy, for a few days before she was going to be attending a conference.
The last full day that we were there (after I had been a bit of a sour grape for most of the trip), I was feeling quite low and introspective. I probably said something rude or fatalistic, and my wife turned to me and said
“Do you even want to work on us?”
Those words hit me like a bag of wet sand. My mind was reeling, and the most frightening thing for me at that moment was that I didn’t know the answer.
Well, I flew home to the UK early the next morning, and that gave me travel time and a few days at home alone to think about things. I made the choice that I was going to commit to working through our challenges if we could.
One of the big challenges that I was facing at the time was an addiction to pornography.
It was a part of my life I’m not proud of, but praise God that He didn’t leave me there.
Psalm 40:1-3 says, “I waited patiently for the LORD; He turned to me and heard my cry.
He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; He set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand.
He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God.
Many will see and fear and put their trust in the LORD.”
I lived this Psalm during that time. There were so many days when it was a defiant act of faith just to read those verses – “He set my feet on a rock…”
Well, without going into too many details, my marriage is better and I have experienced freedom from porn and lustful behaviors like I never imagined.
The other thing that I never imagined was the level of freedom that God had in store for me – that God wanted for me.
God is so much more interested in my freedom that I ever have been (or likely ever will be).
Coaching and counseling were instrumental in my recovery process and the healing I needed to do from unknown trauma and pain that I was carrying.
But here’s the surprising thing…
I never fixed my addiction by focusing on my addiction, and I didn’t “fix” my marriage by focusing on the problems in my marriage.
I fixed both of them by focusing on Him and relying on Him completely.
In my marriage, I also returned my focus to my wife, rather than focusing solely on my hurts and needs.
I needed that experience, knowing that I was helpless without God to grow beyond my past story, and into God’s story for me. And now it is my mission to help others experience the same freedom in their lives as I continue to experience in mine.
May the journey continue to the glory of God!
Trailer below (2:56) followed by full video interview underneath (13:29).
You are where you are, but you don't have to stay there.
Find someone who has achieved your goal, or overcome your challenge and learn from them.
But in the end, the one thing that is necessary is knowing God and loving Him. Walking with Him as we progress on this earthly journey.
My business card
Granite Bear Coaching
I guide people from Failure to Freedom.
Many Christians feel trapped by their past mistakes and failures.
And we all desire to be set free from this cycle.
I create a safe space for you to break free from the negative thoughts and beliefs so you can finally reclaim truth instead of being trapped.
My typical customer
Christians who are feeling stuck, they want a closer walk with God, and they want to experience God's freedom, but they don't know where to start. They might not even know yet that freedom is possible for them.
Visit my website: https://granitebearcoaching.com/